By: ED POLL//April 9, 2013//
By Ed Poll
The law ultimately is a people business.
Lawyers every day deal with human lives in the practice of law and should strive to communicate honestly and directly about the difficulties involved while maintaining respect for those with whom we deal. That is easier said than done when clients who are involved in stressful and emotional problems (from divorce or personal injury to closing a big deal) expect their lawyer to provide all the answers and make things right. The fact is that we cannot always do this, and conveying it to clients is often difficult.
There are ways to manage these interpersonal issues. Make sure clients understand that they’re entering a two-way relationship. The lawyer agrees to perform to the best of his or her ability in accord with professional standards, and the client agrees to communicate and cooperate fully. Often it is clear at the start of an engagement that will be difficult or impossible, when clients:
Recognizing these danger signs enables you to avoid a client who has unrealistic expectations or demands, who will in the future express irritation with delay, who will chronically complain about everything, who will demand constant or instant attention, or who expects unrealistic or abnormal hand-holding. Rejecting such clients before representation will minimize aggravation and stress, as well as possible malpractice claims.
In a larger sense, such relationship management tactics also have a place in a lawyer’s day-to-day personal interactions. The adversarial nature of lawyers’ training risks creating a win-lose mentality when dealing with others. As an antidote, consider these ideas for better managing stress in your interpersonal relationships: